You are ignoring all the important signs he is giving you. When a guy can have the affection of two guy, and not commit to either one, odds are he will try to keep the situation going for as long as possible! Holding on to you gives him comfort in case his new relationship doesn't work out. He is not in the right place in his life to give you what you want from him so you must move on.
3) Believing if you try harder to please him, he will understand and change his feelings for you.
You feel your life is just not complete without him and you must do whatever it takes to make him understand that you are what he needs. A mistake I've seen girls make is thinking a guy will change her life and make her happy and fulfilled. There are situations and relationships where this happens. But those are the exceptions, not the rule.
Nothing says "Run!" to a guy faster than hearing or sensing that a girl immediately wants him to take care of her. The guys who are looking for this kind of situation aren't exactly the most healthy, loving, nurturing people out there. They are the controllers of the world, and you do not want to put your happiness in their hands.
If a girl communicates that she's looking for a guy to take care of her, complete her, or make her whole, it has a VERY negative effect on what the guy will think of her.
4) Feeling that if you look more attractive and sexy he will stay with you.
If a guy doesn't know what he wants when he has it, he generally doesn't want what he's got. This may sound harsh, but it's the truth of the situation. And even when it doesn't ring completely true for you, it's a good rule to go by.
A good man who is the right person and wants to be with you will find his own way to his "emotional truth," and you will not have to resort to dressing like a tart to please him. If his truth is that he wants to be with you, or not be with you, you have to respect what he is telling you. His actions speak louder than words. Things like being sexy for a man or encouraging him to share his feelings can be good, but it has to be genuine, unselfish, and most of all, timely. You don't have to act like an easy girl for guys to like you, and you certainly don't have to play like he's some gift to the Earth.
Doing these things actually works subtly, at a subconscious level, to lower your social status with a guy, which has everything to do with how he sees you as a girl.
5) Pretending to be something you are not to keep him.
Guys who truly want a relationship are never attracted to the type of girls who kiss up to them, make weak plays for his affection or complain to get what they want.
6) Thinking you need to share how you feel right away.
One thing that turns an attractive guys off and sends him running away faster than just about anything is a girl who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates. This signals to the man that you're just like one of those clingy, stereotypical women who want to rush into a relationship and can't control yourself from wanting a guy to fulfill you and complete your life. This does not spell attraction for a guy.
Keep the mystery of how you feel until you are secure in the relationship. You'll never succeed by looking for a guy's approval, finding your way into his heart through sex or not being yourself.
7) Misreading important signals he's sending.
Girls communicate with hints, body language, sarcasm and flirting when they're first getting to know a man. They can either directly or indirectly let men know if they're open to something more serious. Guys are different. Guys generally communicate with sarcasm, humor, cockiness and other indirect displays of status. Very rarely will a man be able to honestly communicate to a girl whether or not he's ready or capable of developing a meaningful relationship.
Aside from their sexual interests, men send very indirect signals about where they're at. It takes time to discover where he is coming from, and it is not something you learn after a couple of dates.
You cannot convince a guy to feel differently about you with logic and reasoning. Think about it. If a guy doesn't have feelings for you, how in the world do you expect to change that by being reasonable with him?
When a guy just isn't interested, some girls will try and chase, compliment, convince and do their best to change his mind with logical and rational approaches that rarely succeed. The bottom line is you cannot convince a man he wants to be with you by manipulation. Either he chooses to be with you or he doesn't.
If he has moved on to a new prospect you can pretty well surmise that he is not interested in you and having a monogamous relationship. You are better served then to plan what steps you are going to take to move on in your life. Sitting and grieving will not bring him back. Plotting and planning and manipulation usually backfire and cause you more pain. The best recourse is to face the fact that the relationship is not working and you need to take care of your own needs and not depend on him to do it for you.
Letting go is hard and never easy but it is necessary if you want to love again.
* ThiS iS gOrgeOuS' wOrlD *
