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Are you Growing Up - or just Growing Old?

1. Can you stay in integrity, despite temptations, compromises and conflicts?
2. Are you adaptable and capable of change?
3. Are you responsible for your finances?
4. Do you enjoy relationships, without depending on people?
5. Do you concern yourself with social problems and solutions?
6. Do you live realistically, conscious of your own mortality?
7. Do you accept your age and continue your development?
8. Can you deal with losses and regrets?
9. Can you use your thoughts and feelings to control your behavior?
10. Can you feel good about yourself and enjoy your relationships?
11. Can you solve your problems promptly?
12. Can you accept reality as it is?

Some people pursue maturity, while others create it. Mature people can cope with marriage, illness, divorce, parenthood, careers and unemployment. When mature people want help - they find the help that they need. See Emotional Intelligence and Emotional Maturity 2.

Immature adults seek substitutes for parents. When immature people want help (usually) they may act like children and cling to people. The help they need is not the help they want. They need to grow up but they want parenting. See Codependence.

Do you want to mature?

You can retain or regain many of the strengths of childhood. You can retain or regain your capacity for wonder, pleasure and playfulness, your capacity for affiliation and curiosity, and your idealism and passion. Soulwork coaching has a unique program that can help you integrate these qualities with adult stability, wisdom, knowledge, sensitivity, responsibility, strength and vision.

Keys to emotional maturity are relationship clarity, a stable sense of integrity and self-acceptance. Then, dissolve mentor damage and find inspirational mentors to live the life you want to live.  If you want clear relationships, heal toxic emotional bonds and accept yourself, Soulwork coaching can help you.

Key qualities of maturity are:

1. Self-control: accept and control passions, emotions, desires, wishes, curiosity, freedom from being impulsive; choose to do what is right
2. Wisdom: understanding; insight; learn from experience; make appropriate decisions; handle stressful problems
3. Responsibility: accepting personal accountability for one's own actions; finances; conscientious work habits; integrity; reliability
4. Independence: make decisions and observe consequences - to make better decisions

Biological maturity, psychological maturity and social maturity may correspond to Erikson's stages of adult development. (The stages are - intimacy versus isolation (young adulthood), generativity versus stagnation (middle age), and integrity versus despair age 45 on).

Emotional Maturity helps people

Who is and who is not emotionally retarded? You can compare a person's emotional control, decision-making and relationship skills with the requirements of the systems to which a person belongs. Most folks are as mature  as they decide to be. See Emotional Maturity 2

How can you mature?

"Don't go around saying the world owes you a living. The world owes you nothing. It was here first." - Mark Twain

Children and childish adults often act as if they should have what they want when they want it, and should not have to endure anything they do not like. They know little of personal responsibility and often rely on other people for care and protection.

Mature adults can delay their own gratification and desires to maintain self control. If your parents did not fully coach you to emotional maturity, Soulwork can provide your missing mentorship. You can gain emotional maturity and self-control, and facilitate wisdom and responsibility.

Emotional maturity doesn't just happen. Soulwork coaching helps people mature.

Soulwork & Emotional Maturity

Change your relationships: We help you evaluate past and current relationships, and enjoy inspiring relationships in which you can develop and express the qualities that you want in your life.

Accept yourself: We can give you candid feedback about your behavior and help you see yourself as others see you. We help you dissolve relationship bonds become the person you want to be.

Pull yourself together: We can help you recover, develop and integrate qualities that you "lost" by helping you dissolve the trauma in which you "lost" them.

Create your Future: We can help you develop and mature qualities that you have never enjoyed before.

Win-win: We help you discover or create solutions to conflicts. We help you find solutions that are appropriate for your family, team or organization.

Sense of life: We help you rebuild your sense of life and define goals that are worth striving for; and a character that has strength and meaning. Then you can mentor and enrich the lives of other people.